How much effort do you put forth to stay in touch with friends who no longer live close to you?
For the most part, the friends a person has are close, or at leat they start out that way. You meet someone in school, at work, at a book club or yoga class. You get together because you have things in common and it is easy to met to grab a coffee or lunch. You do things together because you have similar interests and you enjoy each other's company.
In days gone by -- when a friend moved away, there was phone calls and letter to stay in touch.
I remember spending MANY hours writing letters to friends who moved away, or during the time that I lived in Florida and Arkansas! There was also the odd phone call that I made!
Now a-days, there is so many more ways.
Now, it is easy to quickly send off an email, a fast message on facebook or even a quick text while you are making your toast in the morning... not much effort is needed, really! Gone are the days when you had to treasure-hunt for a piece of writing paper and envelope, think of a few fun and exciting things to write about, trudge your ass down to the post office for a stamp and actually have to use energy to put the sealed envelope in the mail box!!
So when a good friend (who you have know since you were 8) moves away to the other side of the country comes back to the area, say 8-10 times in the past 8 years and doesn't call me, would you say that that person is just lazy, didn't have the 'time' or can't be bothered about the friendship.
Or my best friend from high school who doesn't take up my invitation to stop by (at her convienence) last Christmas during her visit to her parents because they 'don't have time.'
Or my other friend who moved about 6 hours away 8 years ago and drives back to this area twice a month and never once has called to get together for a tea/coffee.
These are people who I hung around with regularly, so it is frustrating.
Maybe it is just me to be bothered by this. Everyone has busy lives! But it really doesn't take much effort to send a quick email-- especially in answer to the one that I send!!!
Or when it is no longer convienient, people can't be bothered.
This is the year that my patience for this is at its end!!